It’s time for baby talk! Am I ready to become this chic chic Mom? Strolling around the city like a hot babe with a babe?
As soon as I got married the baby questions started coming. When are you going to have a baby? Do you want a family? The pressure is on! Plus my Mom has major Grandma fever! I definitely want kids and so does Ryan and we’re at that time in our lives when our friends start having babies on purpose! How do you know if it’s “the right time?” Everyone tells me there is no “right time” and that there is always some reason or issue as to why you shouldn’t have kids. When I am around my friends babies I really feel my clock ticking, but when I am at Costco and I see a harried Mom with three kids who are all screaming and going wild, I want to run away as fast as possible.
When I see the sweet baby faces and cuddle my boyfriend James (the 7 month old Casanova) I want a baby! How can I resist sweet faces like this….
Ryan and I have certain goals we want to achieve before babies though. Sometimes I feel like that’s totally selfish, but it may make me a better Mother in the long run as well. We want to buy a bigger house with a great yard, new cars for us both and we want to go to France and Greece before babies are on the scene. When those things are all accomplished will there be a new set of goals to achieve before baby? Sometimes you hear about people who try and try and plan for a baby and it doesn’t happen. What if we keep putting it off in order to do other things and it becomes too late?
I am already thirty and I know that when you hit thirty five pregnancy gets a lot riskier. In fact, when a woman gets pregnant at 35 or higher she is classified as a “high risk pregnancy.” There is a higher risk for gestational diabetes, larger chance of you baby having down syndrome, and a greater possibility of having placenta previa (the placenta grows near the cervix and causes bleeding). Those things scare me. At the same time I live a very healthy life, eat healthy and exercise 6 days a week. I feel like I have a good oven to cook up a baby in there! If we start trying at 33 what if it takes until 35 and then I’m having my second one at almost 40? That’s too late for me. Plus Ryan has this delusion that we are going to have a bunch of kids, like 4-6 (HA!), but I would be completely thrilled with 2 healthy children. Sometimes I think I would be fine with one, but I would die without my sister so I think it will end up being two.
Ryan says we have a three year baby plan. I know if I got pregnant now it would be such a blessing and we would be happy to welcome a little angel. But I am wildly self centered right now. I want to travel, go to Vegas any random weekend I want, shop for ME, work on my body and fitness, go for wine…the list goes on. I think no matter what there is no “right time” for baby. I know I want to be a Mom for sure one day, but I don’t know if the day to start trying is quite here. I think we’ll be in husband and wife mode for a while. We also have some financial goal posts for before we get in baby time, and apparently we have to start “saving.” What is this saving thing people keep talking about?
Looks like I’m starting to accept our three year plan. I better stop looking at these pictures of these adorable little baby faces because it gives me the fever! They’re so precious! I just want to kiss their cheeks and cuddle all day! Still, I think for the next couple years for these newlyweds it will be… HELLO PARIS!